Becoming a SOAR Recovery Coach: PEACE - Quieting the Mind

Peace Content Review

A Meek Character

  • Picture a man or woman who is carrying a meek and lowly character. What does this person look like? How do they act? How do they talk? Is this person patient and friendly with others? Are they at peace? Are they in a hurry and stressed?

  1. Becoming the type of person that is meek, lowly, friendly, caring, and loving—yet still has the ability to be firm.

  2. Developing the virtues of knowledge, meekness, patience, and temperance.

  3. Being meek means we are in control of how we act, what we think about, and how we speak. Is profanity and loosing our cool in traffic in line with being meek?

  4. Meekness can offset our fears by helping us to feel in control of ourselves; we will be more poised, and in control of our mood, if we focus on being meek and lowly. Why would this be the case?

The Simple Peaceful Life

  • What about trying to walk each day in a reverent, lowly way? This means that we don’t allow a busy day to cause us to act busy or stressed? Or, if our problems are coming after us, we just stay meek, lowly, and poised through the storm. How would we expect to find success with our addiction if we are always acting stressed and full of self pity? Instead, we can remain low key and poised, and carry a faith that all will soon be well if just stay sober, work hard, and endure through these shadowy learning experiences.

  1. We will experience fewer cravings if we are carrying the meek, lowly, and patient character.

  2. We don't always need to be doing something fun. It’s okay to spend an afternoon, reading, exercising (gym, hiking, walking, jogging), and hanging out with family. True fun happens inside the simple life anyway. We remember experiences inside the simple life when compared the chaotic life.

  3. If we are focusing on remaining meek and lowly then our moods won’t get the best of us—they can’t, since we will be less selfish and in control of our feelings.

  4. Inside the simple life we will appreciate the walks with the family, the wind blowing through the trees on a hot summer night, and good conversations with family members and friends, and much more. There is no room for offense or ill feelings inside the simple life, since these feelings aren’t so simple.

Faith & Peace

  • Why do so many of us fear the clear life? Is it because the clear life is so simple and a bit monotonous? Is it because we want life to be more exciting and fun? But if we do choose to escape (relapse), it won’t last long, and shame, fear, and guilt are sure to follow. Whereas if we remained clear and got through what we thought wasn’t exciting, we will have realized that staying sober was far more exciting, and our mood is now full of PEACE and charity because of our good decision to remain clear. We remained meek! We remained in the PEACE of sobriety.

  1. We can BEAT a CRAVING! And yes, our mood will falter, but if we stay lowly and endure through the process, we will gain a victory, which will give us strength for next times battle. We are still at peace because we made the right choice! Peace is our new reward!

  2. Each week will get a bit easier, though our patience and temperance will be tested so that we might obtain these attributes into our character. We cannot expect to fill the holes of our character if we are not challenged by those things that make us weak—can we?

  3. We must pay the price to experience peace in our lives; we must have faith. We have to learn to sit and be still, even when our minds are screaming for us to be chaotic. The only way to grow is to overcome what we are afraid of.

Spiritual Peace

  • We are only as tough as the amount of spiritual in our system. If we are living loudly and poorly then our spiritual gas tank will be running on fumes. But if we are living meekly and lowly, then our spiritual gas tank will be full of the premium blend and will assist us in enduring through the tough terrain of life, making us tough in our mind. How do we keep the spiritual in our system?

  1. Being kind, patient, and non-confrontational. Being smart about what you watch, what you listen to, and what you think about. After all, what you think about you bring about! Don’t be involved in practices that will lower your spiritual condition.

  2. Being dependable! And when we say we are going to do something, then we need to do it. There is no room for excuses or lying anymore as those are consistent practices of those who are using drugs and alcohol. If we want to feel the peace of the spiritual then we must be dependable, which means being on time, serving others, being helpful, and more.

  3. Just because we feel some discomfort each day does not mean our life sucks. Don’t let some sucky experiences in the day cause you to complain about your life in a tone of self pity. Its hard to feel a spiritual peace if you are always feeling sorry for yourself. Spiritual clout is linked to unselfishness.

Learn Together

Discuss and ponder with someone else or the group about the following questions:

  1. Think about what it means to be patient and meek; to carry the type of strength that doesn't need to be heard but can be felt; to give people the benefit of the doubt; to be forgiving of others; and to carry a lowly and meek personality.

  2. Do you think that the low and meek personality offers people a better chance at staying sober?

  3. What does someone who is meek look like?

  4. How do they act? How do they talk?

  5. Are they dependable?

  6. What does it mean to live the simple life?

  7. What way of life does one have to live in order to keep their spiritual condition high?

Becoming a SOAR Recovery CoachDustin Hawkins